Friday, July 25, 2008


Much like our
ring experience, I've found ketubah searching with Tim to be a bit difficult. There aren't that many wedding-related things he cares about, but when he does have an opinion about something, it's a strong one. Really. Really. Strong.

(By the way, he just read that over my shoulder... not too happy about it.)

What's funny about this to me is that I'm sure I ultimately care more about these things than he does, but he has such vehement reactions to certain things that I just wouldn't feel comfortable taking the plunge and spending money on them. This is especially true of the ketubah, which is at least somewhat representative of us as a couple.

Also, ketubot (the Hebrew plural) are not cheap. They range from around $100 for a bare-bones design on nice paper to thousands of dollars for gorgeous, completely custom works of art.

Here are some of the ones he found completely offensive, and I don't blame him - they are so not our style:

(Doesn't the Torah scroll next to the tree trunk look... well... kind of like a roll of toilet paper?)

Those came from the first page of a 525-hit search, which didn't bode well. 

Here are some that I really liked initially, but was ultimately convinced still weren't exactly right:

And here's one that we were seriously considering (without having a design around the border), but I was convinced by Amy and my mom that it's too plain for something so celebratory:

This one also made the cut, but it felt weird to have an Enso when we're not Japanese - we both love the concept, but it was a cultural appropriation we didn't feel entirely comfortable using:

Tim has very minimalist taste, and both of us aren't huge fans of realism or anything frilly. Many ketubot are just overdone, and a lot of the simpler ones we could find simply didn't feel like "us." I wasn't feeling very good about spending upwards of $200 on something that I'd like to hang in our house but didn't love.

Then Tim had an absolutely brilliant idea... 

...coming up!


Anonymous said...

Thanks for the shout-out! I'm famous and I now have a Fiddler on the Roof song in my head. Is that what you were going for with the title of the post? :)

(bride.) said...

Hell yes! My friend and I used to reenact Fiddler in my backyard. Headscarves and all.